Send to KindleThis is a guest post by Danny Iny.
We all have our moments of feeling overwhelmed, snowed under, and buried in feelings of stress and dissatisfaction with our daily performance.
It’s normal and probably even a right of passage for entrepreneurs.
But there are ways to bust out of the rut and get back on track.
Danny shares his ideas below, and be sure to check out my take on this issue at Firepole Marketing: Entrepreneurial SOS- Finding Your Way Clear of the Weeds.
Some days just suck.
In fact, some weeks just suck. Every client needs a rush job, wedding planning is going crazy, and your computer breaks down, all at once.
Everything is crazy, and nothing gets done – it feels like you’re in the eye of a tornado, with everything around you spinning out of control.
Even when you’re having a day just like that (especially when you’re having a day like that!), you’ve got to push through it all, and dissolve that tornado.
But how?
“What if the baby is crying…”
The first step is to recognize that things have gotten a little crazy. Accept that reality, and recognize that you’re going to have to modify your plans a bit.
This might mean pushing deadlines, or canceling plans, or reorganizing priorities, but recognize that you can’t just push through it all by sheer force of will. Someone asked me this question, which was meant to be one of those “values demonstrating” tests:
“Imagine that you’re at home alone. The baby is crying, the phone is ringing, the laundry is outside and it’s starting to rain, someone is at the door, and you’ve got food on the fire that is going to burn. What do you do?”
This question is supposed to be insightful, because you can’t do everything, and each item is supposed to represent a different part of your life (can’t remember what, though).
It’s all about triage, which is what you do in an emergency room when too many people need attention – you sort them based on urgency to see who has to be dealt with first. Ideally, you do this in a way that leaves you the least to clean up later on.
If it’s going to be impossible to get it all done in time, then you need to triage. What needs to be done urgently, and what can wait a little while? How can you organize things so that as much as possible gets done with the least amount of negative impact, and the retention of your sanity?
(In case you’re wondering, I would let the call go to voicemail, turn off the stove, pick up the baby, get the door and tell whoever is there to wait five minutes while I bring the laundry inside, to be dealt with later.)
Why Don’t We Do This?
Okay, you’re probably thinking that this is interesting, but hardly revolutionary. I mean, when you’ve got too much on your plate you’ve got to shift things around, or maybe take something off your plate? Duh, no kidding!
Well, if this is so obvious, then here’s an equally obvious question: why don’t we do it? Why do we let ourselves tread water for so long before starting to dig our way out of the mud?
The answer is that when things crash around you, completely out of your control, it is disempowering. It feels like a message from the universe saying that “you may think you’ve got a handle on things, but really, you don’t!”
And when we’re feeling disempowered, it’s hard for us to act.
Which is why before you triage, and before you start reorganizing your priorities, you need to reclaim some of that power and control.
Start with the Dishes
I have a routine that I go through when I’m feeling like this: I wash the dishes, and take out the trash.
I might clear my desk, and if I have time, I empty my inbox, and sweep the floors. But at the very least, I wash the dishes and take out the trash. The shortest version of this takes about ten minutes.
I do this because there is something inherently empowering about taking a mess, and cleaning it up. In a very small way, it reasserts your control over your environment. Once I get that little bit of control back, I’m ready to sit down and make a plan for taking back control of the rest.
It’s a simple thing, really, but it works – for me, at least.
What about you? Do you have any rituals that you employ to take control back when the universe has wrested it away from you? Leave a comment and let me know…
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Hey Cori, thanks for hosting this post!
Everybody, be sure to check out Cori’s answer to the same question over at Firepole Marketing – and share your own take on in the comments, here or there.
You’re welcome and likewise! Glad to do a swap, always fun!
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Hi Danny,
Wow, your scenario up top resembles me on a normal day. God forbid I should actually get busy! =) My daughter’s 10 months old and I’m alone with her five days out of every month, so things get really interesting.
Before kids, I used to clean and get things back into order and spotless. It would take me a few days, but sometimes it took that long to get my head back into a place where I could hear my own thoughts. Clutter and I don’t get along. Now that I’ve got the munchkin, I have no idea how to wrest control back in my life when the Universe explodes. =) Kids kind of are the universe’s special way of saying, “Welcome to chaos.”
Delena
Uh, oh, Delena, you’re scaring me… I’m the type that gets everything in order, too, but I don’t have kids yet. Will my life turn into chaos once I had a little one (or two)?
I guess the answer is probably “yes, but it’s worth it”, right? That’s what my business partner Peter keeps telling me…
HA! Danny you just wait.
Kids totally reorganize your life, and the best you can do is roll with it and hope you survive. lmao And yes, totally worth it, so hop to it man!
Well, the wedding’s in September – we’re on the right track.
Lol.. that’s good, congrats man!
We haven’t even set our date yet.. so much going on. :-/
Lol.. I’m with ya Delena… my house is utter chaos 98% of the time. And I don’t function well in it! But with 3 boys, I guess I’m doomed to live with it and figure it out as I go. lmao. More like the Universe’s cosmic joke saying chaos is life!
Everybody experienced that situation in our life. We must learn how to prioritize our daily load . We must know which one is to be done first. In other words management, learn how to divide your time and that is time management. We must accept that we can not do our task at the same time. Your still the one who must control your own situation not your load, if not you can not sort your situation. But remember there is always a way if there is a will. Willingness to do and sort the task is the best thing that everyone must posses to bear this things in life. there is always a way to get out in the eye of tornado.
You’re right Roland, we all need to learn how to prioritize, and ultimately, we need to take control, and not let the situation control us instead.
I used to be a very well organized person when I was in my younger age, every little thing was surely putted in order. When I got married and have kids, my priorities came apart and of-course my kids were on the top of it. It really makes me upset having an unstructured things around, but I think its a typical situation that’s happening if you have kids.
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Ha.. kids destroy every attempt at structure and organization you can lay on them.
It’s in their DNA! lol
Believe it or not having alot of business is a nice problem to have. I know that it can be difficult juggling a business with a family but again it is great to know that business is booming.

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Hey Ic.. can’t argue that.
Definitely not a bad problem to have.
I love giving people advice. Therefore, when I have serious factors that attempt to overwhelm me, one of the things that I do is to imagine myself giving someone else (in that situation) advice. I then tell myself to take some of my own advice.
LOL! Great strategy! I’mma have to try that one. hehe Usually when I tell myself to take my own advice I then tell myself to put a sock in it. hehe
Starting from scratch is not so easy always it needs lot of patience and dedication. The most important thing is we should be ready to get our hands dirty.
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I agree. Its hard to get anything done without actually putting in the initial hard work. Most people that I know, even those that come from families with business acumen tend to work really hard initially – at least to get the ball rolling.
Hard work always pays off!
An Entrepreneur life is not so easy as it looks to be. They struggle and work hard while other’s sleep. Nothing is easy to achieve right.
Very true Kyle!
Hi Danny,
I read somewhere that human is not capable of multitasking, we can only do one thing at a time and then do another thing afterwards. Prioritizing is one thing, but we can’t handle everything by ourselves. When things get overwhelming, sometime all we can do is ask someone for help.
Hey Swan.. asking for help is something I need to work on. hehe
Hi Cori, I am new to your site. Love your design! I am also new to the “online space” and am working to setup my design. Working full time and working on this future workspace has made me feel overwhelmed many times.
When I feel overwhelmed, I clear my desk and closet… just as Danny said, taking control of what I can, helps me to attack the other items; or determine they can wait.
Danny, your style of writing is easy on the eyes and on the mind. Great article. I will be visiting your site also.
Have a prosperous day!
Hey Jane! Thanks for dropping by.
And thanks for the compliment! Danny is awesome, definitely check out his blog. #headedofftoclearmydeskAGAIN hehe
Nice article. When things go crazy for me, I go take a shower, listen to music or watch TV. I also think closing your eyes, breathing and doing Jedi mind tricks helps me focus – lol. You are 100% correct about doing “triage”.
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Closing my eyes and breathing… my favorite thing to do! Only I call it sleep. hehe
Very good tips! When I got my wonderful son 2 years ago, I had to work a lot on my time management skills! As I had a very short parental leave I went through a hard time when I went back to work. As an entrepreneur, the purpose of any kind of actions that you do is earning money.Your time management too, should be directed toward how you can increase your revenue. You have had a goal already , you
just need to breakdown your big goal into a sequence of action and manage your
time to complete each tasks.
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Hey Sam! Too true. It’s extremely helpful to break down larger goals into smaller “chunks” of actionable ideas to keep yourself moving forward.
Nice posts, Danny. For me, whenever it feels like everything’s on my shoulders. I take a shower and either hang out with friends or sleep. This has been working for me.
Well, there has been a lot discussed about time management & priority management.
But over the period of time, it happened many times that your clients wants the dish ready and you have not plugged the oven till the time OR something similar. That’s the time when you are in a mess, which you are not sure to deal with. You can’t blame the client and neither yourself. I guess most of us might have faced situation like this. In such situation, it is very hard to manage your time and more tough to manage the balance b/w personal & professional life. But by the end of day, you have to prioritize any one. This is the lesson I think everyone should learn that what point what should be priority and should be ready to face the situation.
I will try the shower thing.. Hope it helps me too
Hehe, hopefully it will Sandy.
Great to see another awesome post by my Danny. On the process of reading all the god articles he has shared about his guest posts, this is one of catching once I enjoyed reading.
I like the example “Start with the Dishes” and this is similar to the kaizen techniques of Japanese business and culture which focus upon continuous improvement of processes in manufacturing, engineering, and business management.
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Thanks Fernando, glad you enjoyed!